When I was growing up, I barely brushed my hair. I was either climbing a tree or playing a sport. I hated anything to be done to my hair other than a braid or ponytail. The only success my mother or grandmother had was during picture day or Sunday morning for church, and that was pushing it. I remember sitting between my moms legs on the floor with tears running down my cheeks while my she ripped a brush through my mane.
To this day, I still don’t feel like a real girl when it comes to hair. My blow dryer and straightener both literally have dust on them. I can only do a simple braid or ponytail. I can’t French braid, and I don’t own a curling iron. I had very thick, straight hair growing up. After kids, my hair became super wavy with a few random spirals. Usually, I just put a little curling cream or leave in conditioner in my hair and let it air dry. Even though I don’t do a lot of cool things to my hair, I was looking forward to actually having a girl and doing her hair.
Luckily, my daughter has wild but amazing hair. It has ringlets at the bottom and it’s thick and bouncy. At a year and a half old, it is already past her shoulders, and she’s always getting compliments on her hair. I’m always looking on Pinterest for simple ideas to pin it out of her face and give it some extra cute style.
The amount of posts I see claiming to be simple include what looks like four dozen bows and braids. My daughter may have gorgeous hair, but she will only allow it to be touched if she’s moving. She needs to be hog tied and held down for any amount of styling to be successful. She will bite, punch, and throw her head back.
I’m always seeing posts or pictures on social media of girls her age wearing the cutest bows and headbands. My daughter fed a few of her hair clips to the dog, but I got a few pictures of her hair before she yanked them out. She tried to flush a headband, and it was almost a plumbing disaster. She lets me brush it for the most part, but aside from a low ponytail, she wears her hair down. If I’m feeling up to some minor bleeding or bruises, I will attempt pigtails, but she’s scrappy.
When I’ve asked other moms what their methods or tips were, I got laughed it. Usually, I hear a remark that insinuates that it’s my fault. Then, they offer to do her hair because they are sure she will allow them to style it. While they sit on their high horse, I just roll my eyes until I get a headache. The only two people who my daughter will sit for without a struggle are my husband and his mom.
My mother-in-law is not your typical movie stereotype. She’s funny and gives amazing parenting advice without ever sounding condescending or pretentious. I definitely got lucky in the in-law department. My kids are obsessed with her. My daughter lets her play with her hair almost everytime we visit. She’s like a hair Yoda. She does have two boisterous teenager daughters, so she’s very experienced. Plus her daughters have the most incredible hair.
At some point before my daughter goes to school, I’m determined to master the cute hair styles. I will continue to buy headbands and clips in hopes of wearing her down. Thankfully, the dog now takes things from her with caution.
If you have any tips, tricks, or favorite styles for your little girl, feel free to share!