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To be honest, I’ve thought about this scenario before I was tagged, but I never settle on what to say to my 15 year old self. As I get older, the answers are always changing. I’m not sure if I would write myself a full letter. I was very stubborn, and I used letters to reach out to a lot of people when I was that age. However, I’m not sure if someone sending me a letter would have had the same impact or even the impact I would hope it would have. Nonetheless, I’m going to do this tag, because I believe that reflection is a positive way to move on from negative memories. My teenage years were really traumatic, but I’m not sure if I would change anything about that time in my life. It shaped me and made the person I am. I would love to erase certain memories, but at the same time, I like who I have become despite those harmful situations. I am the best version of myself that I have ever been.
Dear 15 Year Old Me,
1. Don’t be so hard on yourself because…
You are so beautiful. You are not fat or ugly. The people who are continually putting you down have no self love and don’t want to be alone in those emotions. They want to tear you down, so they can manipulate you and have power. You don’t need to skip meals or purge. You don’t need to hurt yourself, because you are incredible the way you are. Give yourself some credit. You’ve made it this far!
2. The relationship you’re in…
is toxic. If you break up so often, stop getting back together. Stop feeling guilty about leaving his friends. They are your friends too, and the one’s that love you will still love you once you separate yourself from him. Don’t stay in a relationship because you feel like you are damaged goods. Your future husband is one of those friends you were afraid of leaving. He is proof that people love you and not the relationship version of yourself. You are stronger without him. Don’t worry about him either, because he is also better without you. Save yourself a lot of harm and leave him for good.
3. You’ll get through this because…
you have to. You have to be strong. You have to make the life for yourself that you’ve always wanted. You can leave home as soon as your capable. You’ve always been able to take care of yourself. You will become an amazing woman, but you have to believe that you can do this on your own. It will be one of the hardest things that you have to go through, but you will make it and you will be better than before.
4. Don’t get caught up in thinking…
that you need a support system. You are the best support system you have. You need to get away from the toxic people and situations and better yourself. Get healthy and show your friends that you are okay. You don’t need to stay in a bad situation and hope it will get better. You can handle anything on your own, and in time, those who truly love you and support you will be there for you. Put yourself before others, because that is how you heal yourself. You can’t love someone unless you fix the amount of hatred you have for yourself.
5. These experiences will help you learn…
that you can make it through anything. You can handle abuse, eating disorders, and any other harmful situation. These experiences will harden you but also teach you the compassion that you need for yourself. Once you learn to love yourself, the rest will come. Your happiness shows up, and you become a wonderful mother and wife. You aren’t broken; you are whole and full of experiences that make you stronger.
Writing these meant a lot to me, and sometime in the near future, I hope I can sit down and write an entire letter. I hope I can find the words. I don’t like to dwell on the past or think if I could change something, what would it be? I just try to focus on what I gained from the hardest years of my life. I hope you enjoy this tag as much as I did. I’ve been posting a lot this week, but this one was the therapy I needed.