It’s that time of year for cookie trays and big family feasts. I always get super anxious. Truth is, I don’t want to feel all of that guilt and pressure this year. I want to love myself whether I eat a piece of pie or not. This year is important to me, because I’m trying really hard to not let my eating disorder recovery go the opposite direction.
I still struggle to love myself consistently, because I have a very long history with bulimia. It was almost a decade long battle, and although I’m a few years into recovery, it’s still just as challenging. The holidays make it a lot harder though. I have good days, and I have bad days. That’s why it’s important to remind yourself that you’re human.
As a SAHM, I get a fair amount of questions asking why I’m tired so much because I can just “sit down when I want.” As hilarious as that notion is, I am running around most of the day. If my family is going to be together for the holidays, then I want to be present. I don’t want to spend my holiday running around like a mad woman stressing over my fears of relapse.
Also, I worry about the foods. My relationship with food is so rocky. On holidays, I usually pick at my plate and share with my kids, but I want to eat this year. I want to feel energized and full instead of anxious. Honestly, I get tired of people suggesting to skip the cookie tray and go for the fruit. I’m ready for food labels and the toxic body and food shaming phrases to go.
Find What Works
I’ve tried every diet, workout, and pill. I’ve tried clean eating too. What works best for me might not work for you. I can’t chase numbers on a scale, because that’s what always led to me relapse.
For me, I need to focus on my mental health. I want to try to breathe through those moments of panic. Being kind to my body and mind is so important, because for every other holiday, I was the opposite of kind to myself.
That’s why I’ve decided I’m going to just breathe and enjoy. I’m going to eat a cookie and not let food guilt bring me down. Also, I’m going to try and be positive and kind to my body and mind this holiday season, so I can be a good role model for my little ones.
I found a few quotes that I’m going to use when I feel my confidence wavering. This year, I want to feel beautiful at the Christmas parties and dinners. I want to smile when we go visit family. These quotes will help me, and I hope they can help others too.
Body Positive Quotes for the Holidays
1. “Your self-esteem won’t come from body parts. You need to step away from the mirror every once in a while and look for another reflection, like the one in the eyes of the people who love and admire you.” –Stacy London
2. “Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” -Marilyn Monroe
3. “There is nothing wrong with your body. But there is a lot wrong with the messages which try to convince you otherwise.” -Rae Smith
4. “If you retain nothing else, always remember the most important rule of beauty. Which is: who cares?!” –Tina Fey
5. “You are no less valuable at a size 16 than a size 4. You are no less valuable as a 32 A than a 32 C.” -Mary Lambert
6. “Feeling beautiful has nothing to do with what you look like.” -Emma Watson
7. “One day I decided that I was beautiful and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl. It doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see.” -Gabourey Sidibe
8. “Workout because you love your body, not because you hate it.” –Katie Goblet
9. “You’re a human being, you live once and life is wonderful, so eat the damn red velvet cupcake.” –Emma Stone
10. “I don’t really care what I look like that much. And I think that women out there should just be happy with how they look and they shouldn’t really try to conform to any stereotype. Just be happy and hopefully healthy.” -Rebel Wilson
11. “We live in a day and age where people make it impossible for women, men, anyone to embrace themselves exactly how they are. Diversity is sexy! Loving yourself is sexy! You know what is not sexy? Misogyny, objectifying, labeling, comparing and body shaming! Talking about people’s bodies as if they’re on display asking for your approval / opinion. They are not! Celebrate yourself. Celebrate others. The things that make us different from one another make us beautiful.” –Ariana Grande
12. “I’m not going to sacrifice my mental health to have the perfect body.“ -Demi Lovato
I know a lot of these people are gorgeous celebrities. I used to think what the hell does Ariana Grande have to be self conscious about. Then, I realized we all have insecurities and issues with our bodies at some point in our life.
We need to rally and spread love. Love yourself. Be positive and the self-worth will come. Stay happy this holiday!