It’s one of those days. I haven’t slept more than a few hours in the last couple of days. My youngest is fighting a cold, and my 3 1/2 year old is regressing- there’s pee in his pull-up.

He was maybe only using one or two pull-ups a day. Everything was going decent- not awesome but decent. The doctor said he’s trying, and that’s what counted. I’m doing everything in my wheelhouse to stay patient and remind myself that he’ll go when he’s ready.

It feels like we’ve been training him for years. I’ve tried every tip, and I’ve read every article. I feel like he’s going to college in peed pull-ups. I even tried all those methods on Pinterest that promise your kid will be potty trained in a weekend.

What Didn’t Work

  • Wearing underwear only
  • Keeping a small, portable potty close by plus a stool and toddler seat on big toilet
  • Going often- tried every 20 minutes
    Being naked
    Stickers, candy, and other rewards
    Fun potty books, videos, and games

It was going great, and he was down to one pull-up a day with no accidents. He was even holding it at nap time and bedtime. I’m constantly asking him if he needs to go, but he’s pulling back.

He’s not speaking up, and he’s hiding when he’s going in his pull-up. The only other option I have is to stay positive. When he’s ready, he’ll stick with it, right?

I know all kids are different. Everyone has there own pace, and comparing kids is no way to be. It’s just so defeating when you feel like you’re doing something wrong.

Ways to Stay Positive And Persistent

  • Remember that potty training is not a reflection of your parenting abilities. Just because your kid didn’t learn as quickly or as young as other kids, doesn’t mean you’re less of a parent.
  • Keep up with the routine. It’s exhausting and can get overwhelming, but if you keep up with your potty schedule, it will click.
  • Be patient. My kid didn’t learn in a weekend like the last 784 kids I read about today, but he will learn. It takes time. If I lose my cool, so will he.
  • Stop comparing. This is so hard, but it’s one of the biggest keys in staying positive. I can’t compare my kids to those Pinterest potty training toddlers. He’s not them. He’s his own person, and when he’s ready, he will go.
  • Breathe. It’s so hard to relax when you’re a mom with multiple kids and a giant to-do list, but it’s important to breathe and work your way through it.
  • Put the potty first. I have to do the floors, the dusting, and probably fold laundry I forgot about. I’m going to put his potty training routine first. I can do other tasks, but setting a timer on my phone really helps.
  • Be the positive support system your kid needs. My husband and I have been stressed a lot lately, but we try to encourage and support our kids every step of the way. Being positive and having a good support system will always keep the momentum going.

It’s going to be okay, momma.

When I first started writing this, he had peed another pull-up. It’s like nothing is working, but as I write this, I’m calming myself down. Moms need pep talks, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

After every few paragraphs of writing, I ask him, “do you have to go potty?” After doing a few dishes or making the bed, I ask again. He’s successfully went a few times already. I just need to stay motivated and not let him see the stress that is spilling out here.

We can do this. It’s a new year, and we are going to stay positive. We are going to conquer the damn potty!

Feel free to share your potty training experiences. Good vibes are always welcome. Have a great week.

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I'm a wife and stay at home mom. I'm not a domestic goddess but more like a demi-goddess, because I don't have super strength or multiple arms. I have two hands and just try to drink my coffee and conquers the momdays.