Second Shift Valentine
Happy Valentine’s Day! It’s one of my favorite holidays. I’ve done a few posts about good old love day in the past. I’ve also highlighted other bloggers’ Valentine’s posts. You can check them out, if you’d like.
I’ve loved this holiday for as long as I can remember, whether I was in a relationship or not. What’s not to love about love?
This year, I’ll be spending most of the day with my kids until my husband comes home from work. We are a second shift family, so I won’t see him until close to 11pm. That last hour in the day is going to be a good one, for sure.
Second Shift Changed Everything
Before we were married, my husband worked both first shift and third shift jobs. We always thought second shift was equated to misery and no life. When he got a call from his dream company about being a welder, we were excited. Once he passed their weld test, we found out he would train on first shift and then go to second. I was devastated.
We had just moved into our new home. We had a mortgage, a toddler, and a baby. As a SAHM, my days are chaotic, and there isn’t much down time to be lonely. My biggest fear was feeling lonely during those second shift hours. I was worried my depression would come back with a vengeance.
People instantly assumed the kids would stay on a first shift schedule. What they didn’t see was that my kids were sleeping in until 10am and 11am. They wouldn’t go to sleep until after midnight. It was a constant battle to adjust their schedules earlier. My husband and I were only getting a few hours of sleep at best. Being so tired caused a lot of tension. It felt like everything was falling apart.
The Shift For Us
We made a decision to all go to second shift. A lot of family and friends gave their feedback about how it wasn’t going to be good for the kids. We took the chance, because we tried to put them on a typical, early schedule that just never worked.
A week into the change and everyone was wonderful. We were all getting at least 8 hours of sleep, and the kids were able to spend time with their dad. My two biggest concerns were the kids not seeing their dad enough and feeling lonely.
I have to say, second shift has been the best change we’ve ever made. We have coffee and breakfast with the kids. We get to watch our show before he leaves, and while he’s at work, I have a busy day with the kids.
I clean, workout, play, and stay fairly motivated. After the kids eat lunch, which is dinner time for most, they take a nap. That’s the time I grab a shower or have some me time, which usually involves blogging.
It may sound crazy to let my kids sleep in. It may sound ridiculous to all be awake making dinner when most people go to bed, but it works for us. The pediatrician is on board too. We were worried about eating schedules, but we are healthy and doing good.
With the kids thriving and my husband loving his job, I have to say we are the best we’ve ever been as a family. We go to stores on the weekends, and we cook all week long. It’s actually helped us eat a lot healthier too.
Here’s where the lovely Valentine’s stuff comes in. Before we made the shift change, our marriage was holding on by a thread. We were sleep deprived. The kids couldn’t keep a good schedule. We fought constantly. Once we made the change, things just fell into place so beautifully.
Our marriage became like the honeymoon period all over again. We were getting sleep, and were eating better. We were in better moods, so we couldn’t keep our hands off of each other. I’m happy to say, that second shift reignited our marriage. We are just doing so much better as a whole.
It’s Not For Everyone
As much as second shift has benefited us, I know it’s not for everyone. I do wish people would stop assuming we need to be on a standard, first shift schedule, but these positive changes have helped me let go of what people think. It’s honestly been the best change yet.
Spending Love Day Alone
I won’t technically be alone, since the kiddos are in full-force, toddler mode today. Since I’m blind and don’t drive, I have to spend the day at the house. I don’t mind, but I already did the majority of my cleaning yesterday. Aside from a few odds and ends, I need to keep myself busy so the day goes quickly.
The kids have an early evening nap, so I have a 2 hour window of me time. For Valentine’s Day, I think I can shake up my normal routine for some extra self-care.
I’ll grab an extra bubbly tub and throw on hair and face masks. I might do some special makeup and a pretty dress. Whether he’s home or not, it’ll feel good to get dolled up. Spending Valentine’s Day without a significant other doesn’t have to be boring.
Happy Valentine’s Day
I hope everyone has an incredible day. Remember, today is about love, and that includes self-love. You don’t need another person to feel loved or be pampered. Have a great day!