Coffee Talks: She Makes Me Proud
So, I talk a lot about my family and kids, but there’s one woman in particular that I don’t talk about enough. It’s partly because I’m always at a loss for words. She’s extremely strong and incredible, and I feel like nothing I say will do her justice. So, here I am trying to express how truly wonderful my sister-in-law is.
My husband has two biological sisters and two foster sisters. We are close with all of them, but his youngest biological sister is who I want to dedicate this post to. My husband and I have been talking about how she’s kicking ass at life, so this felt right.
I’ve mentioned before that my husband grew up in foster care, and his 3 siblings stayed with their grandmother. While I won’t go into every detail, I will say that they all faced a lot of turmoil. They grew up surrounded with toxic “role models” and abuse.
My sister-in-law is a fighter. She was treated so poorly, but somehow, she is one of the most magnificent people I’ve ever encountered. She was determined to get out of that dark place, and she did everything in her power to be somebody great.
She went to a lot of lengths to find better people to have in her life. Her determination to not let the negative overtake her blows my mind. This may sound crazy, but she once stole a car to get away from abuse. Mind you, she managed to drive a car, safely and without any actual trouble, to get to away from a toxic situation. She’s pretty much an action hero, and she’s one of the bravest women I know.
Make Your Own Family
Her and my husband have this intense loyalty to their blood, but at the same time, they made their own families with loving people. She had a few jobs in her late teens as a caretaker for the elderly and at a day care center, but when she started working at a small department-type store, she met her family. She instantly connected with a lady and her wife, who each run one of these stores. They took on this role as surrogate parents. They helped her learn how to be an adult and become independent. They are like her Yoda moms, and we are so grateful she has them in her life. They are our family now too.
She also has a great fiancé. She waited for this young man while he completed his time in the Air Force. While he was away, she was working to set them up a life. With the guidance of her Yoda moms and her amazing determination, she got her own place and just kept evolving into even more of a boss lady.
I’m always pestering my sister and her fiancé about making me some nieces and nephews. They are so busy right now, and I know that. I just want them to know that motherhood is another thing that I know she will be amazing at. I can’t wait, but I’m loving seeing her grow through these stages of life.
Always Working & Thriving
If there is one thing that I love and hate about the similarities between my husband and his little sister is that they work more than anyone I’ve ever met, and they go above and beyond to lend a helping hand. They hustle and give, and they love it. Sure, they need breaks, but they still push harder than most people. She has worked at the same store for a few years and is an assistant manager.
Not only does she work her ass off, she’s putting herself through nursing school. It takes my breathe away knowing she works so hard everyday, and on top of it all, she’s a genuinely sweet person.
If wanting to be a nurse, which is one of the most difficult jobs, isn’t admirable enough. She is also a good person. She actually cares about other people, and she never puts herself first. I swear her list of good qualities just keeps going. That’s the thing though, she isn’t perfect, but she embraces that and is always growing and learning. She knows her flaws and works at being a better version of herself everyday.
She may be my little sister, but I look up to her.
Sometimes, we don’t get to see her for weeks. We are a family that has terrible timing. Between work, family, kids, health, and all the of the curveballs that life throws, we don’t see her as much as we’d like. We understand life is crazy, so when we do see her, it’s awesome.
We can always pick up right where we left off. She never brags about herself, even though she definitely should. She’s always thoughtful, and my kids throw themselves at her. We are just so lucky to have such a strong and inspiring woman as family.
I’m so proud that she’s a role model for my kids. She could have turned to drugs or alcohol. She could have led a very different life because of her upbringing, but instead of letting the past drag her down, she’s soaring and conquering her goals. If you would have asked younger me what I wanted to be when I grow up, it’d be a woman like her.
We love you sis, and we are so proud of you.