Skip to content

Body Positive Affirmations: Stop the Summer Shame

Summer is in full swing, and I don’t know about any of you, but me and the heat aren’t friends. I sweat enough for multiple people. Thankfully, I no longer hide in layers of clothes. I can let my body breathe they way it should.

I’m definitely not a stranger to writing about sweating and my struggle to wear certain clothes. You can also check out a post I did about being able to comfortably wear shorts here. Learning to love my body and dress it how I want has been one of my favorite journeys, and I’m not done yet. I do have some qualms with this extra hot season we’re in though.

One of my biggest pet peeves about summer isn’t that I feel like I’m melting when I step outside. It’s when I see weight loss call to actions that involve phrases like “summer body” or “bikini body” that make me angry. It drives me wild that people think we have to be a smaller size specifically for summer. We need to realize that bodies come in all shapes and sizes, and they are perfectly wonderful as they are.

Profound statements ahead. All bodies are summer bodies. All bodies are bikini bodies, and most of all, all bodies are beautiful!

I completely understand that not everyone is comfortable running around in crop tops and bikinis, but one of the major reasons we aren’t comfortable is because we are conditioned to believe that you have to look a certain way or have a certain body type to wear those things to begin with.

Becoming Size Happy

I used to be so concerned about my pants size. I use to cry in dressing rooms and do anything I could to get my body to look like what I thought a summer body was supposed to look like. I thought that you couldn’t be beautiful unless you were thin, and I thought I wasn’t allowed to wear certain things unless I was a smaller size. Swimsuit shopping always took a toll on my mental health.

I wasn’t happy. I was in an almost decade long battle with bulimia, and I thought it was extremely normal to have zero confidence. I assumed most people were just full of shit if they said they loved themselves and their bodies and they weren’t skinny. I’m so grateful that I was wrong about all of it.

After years of senseless mental and physical abuse I caused myself, I can proudly say that I am size happy. There’s no emphasis on a number or label in a clothing tag. I’m just size happy.

Wear What You Want

Before I get to the wonderful affirmations that will make you fall in love with your body at any size, I want to stress something. Wear what you want. Wear what makes you happy.

I’m not saying that you have to wear crop tops and bikinis to prove that you love your body or anything. Just wear what you love and don’t feel restricted because of your body. What we need to restrict is negative people and toxic situations that tell you otherwise.

I also don’t want to hear any of that “you’re so brave” or “I wish I was brave enough” conversations. Let’s stop labeling women brave for embracing their bodies, because it can imply that they aren’t supposed to feel that way at a certain size. Everyone should embrace their body, because all bodies are good bodies.

With that being said, I know what it’s like to dip your toes into something new and start branching outside of your comfort zone. I didn’t just spring into this positive mindset. It took time. Hell, a year ago I still was trying to lose weight. I didn’t fully accept my body until these last few months, and it took time and effort.

I used to find ways to hide my body, and I would dread dressing up for every holiday. I would get so anxious and consumed with body shame, so don’t feel bad if you aren’t fully embracing yourself yet. Be patient, and stick with me through this journey. I promise I won’t give up on you, and I hope you won’t give up on yourself. You deserve self-love and body confidence.

Summer Self-Love Affirmations

Now, y’all know I’m a fan of affirmations and body positive quotes. They are all over this blog, and some of my favorites are in my body positive self-help book, Eat the Damn Muffin. I have notebooks all over my house to remind me to never give up on this self-love journey, so check out some of the ones that remind me that my body and all bodies are summer bodies.

  • If you have to restrict certain foods, cut calories, and constantly workout to be a specific size, then maybe that’s not the size you’re meant to be.
  • We aren’t born to lose weight and chase unrealistic ideals. We are here to live our life happily.
    Summer isn’t about losing weight. It’s about spending time with the ones you love and having fun outside.
    Life doesn’t start 10 pounds or any weight loss amount from here. Life is now and happening, so I should live it and not miss it by being brought down by arbitrary numbers.
    I shouldn’t punish myself or my body for a bad day, because self-love is a process.
    Thank you body, for housing everything that keeps me alive and allowing me to live my life.
    I am as beautiful as I believe I am, and my beauty can’t be determined by others.
    I need to stop comparing myself to others, because it will only bring me down. I’m living my life not theirs.
    Comparisons don’t matter, because everyone is uniquely themselves.
    My body has gotten me this far in life, so I should be grateful and show it kindness and appreciation.

Again, I could go on and on with these. I’m even getting more notebooks, because mine are almost full. Just remember that beauty is a mindset, not an image.

It’s just so important to know that you are in charge of how you feel about yourself. It’s SELF-love for a reason, so take it back. Whether it’s an inner mean girl, toxic people, or other negativity in your life that causes you to feel ashamed of your body, you need to get rid of it. Kick that negativity out the door, and embrace yourself for all that you are.

Stop labeling yourself as “too” this or that. You’re incredibly beautiful just the way you are. The only labels you need are positive ones.

Redefine yourself, and don’t focus on what you consider flaws. Those are quirks, and they are gorgeous. Whatever you don’t like about your body, change the way you view it.

Your body carries you and all that important junk inside you around. Your belly breaks down foods and keeps you energized and going. Your legs are beautiful and are like strong flower stems that hold you up. Your butt is perfect, because all butts are perfect. Just change the way you talk to yourself and you’ll start to see that magnificent person staring back at you in the mirror. If you can start this process and keep trying, then that positivity and confidence will flow.

Every morning this summer, I want you to wake up and remember:

1. All bodies are beautiful.

2. Confidence is for every body.

3. You’re worthy of self-love at any size.

I hope you wear whatever makes you smile this summer, and I hope I was able to kick some of that summer body shame out of your head.

Have a good week!

-Jenni

20 Comments »

  1. Love affirmations! I make it a habit to reading affirmations daily for peace and comfort for my mental health. This post was so inspiring, thank you!

  2. I’m not a big fan of my tummy, but I try to think of shifting the focus away rather than hiding. Currently I have a tankini that keeps my tummy tucked in and puts a spotlight straight on my boobs.

    • I’ve struggled with accepting my belly too, but it’s the only one I have and I almost lost it once due to the bulimia. So, I’m trying to treat my body with kindness now. It’s hard to completely change how we see ourselves, but baby steps are still steps.

  3. I had to deal with this a lot growing up. I was ashamed of my body. Mostly because I have vitiligo (autoimmune disease that leaves white spots on your body) and people used to make fun of me a lot. So I started only wearing jeans. And I live in Florida. I finally got over it though and I am so damn happy I did. Mostly cause now I wear shorts in this dam heat!

    • I’m happy you were able to overcome those feelings. One of my best friends has that also. She’s probably one of the most confident women I know. I love seeing women love themselves!

  4. Thank you for reading and relating. Body dysmorphia is so heart wrenching to deal with. I will always do my best to not only fight my own, but I want to inspire and help others as well!

  5. These are wonderful affirmations! I often feel people forget how incredible our bodies are and they are more than just a beauty.
    Thank you for sharing with us.
    Alyssa
    THESACREDSPACEAP.COM

  6. Thank you for sharing your affirmations. I think this is something every woman experiences and it is really nice to hear it discussed openly! Activation Vibration on YouTube has really powerful affirmations for embracing the divine feminine and owning your power!

  7. I LOVE this SO much! I LOVE summer (mermaid at heart,) but admittedly wearing bathing suits and less clothing that come with the heat has always been a struggle. I have come a long way to accept my body as is, and the older I get the less I seem to care, but every so often affirmations are a great reminder to love myself as I am. Thank you so much for sharing this! <3

    • Thank you so much for sharing too. I love when people can read and relate. We need these conversations more so people start to change how they view themselves. 😘

  8. This is such a great message, thanks you for sharing. I have never been thin, or fit, and after having 2 babies, even less, my body is full of stretch marks and cellulite, I don’t have time to work out properly because I have a job, a blog, 2 kids, a home and a family to take care, I decided many years ago to embrace my reality and stop body shaming me, one day when my kids growth, I’ll have plenty of time to exercise, but is good sometimes to read something like this.

  9. This is one of the best body positive posts I’ve read. “Life doesn’t start 10 pounds or any weight loss amount from here. Life is now and happening, so I should live it and not miss it by being brought down by arbitrary numbers.” That phrase REALLY resonates with me. Thank you for writing this!

  10. Thank you for these affirmations. These changes in attitude really work, I’ve experimented with many of them and although the occasional moment of shame or criticism sometimes slips back in (bad habits!) it does get easier to turn them around with practice.

    • Thanks for reading! I’m sending all the love and support your way for those slip up moments. We all have them, and it’s okay to have them every so often as long as we don’t live in those moments.

Leave a Reply

Welcome to Housewife Hustle!

I hope you're excited to be here, because it's my goal to help you see that you're magical and beautiful just the way you are.

There's something for everybody:

  • parenting discussions
  • blogging advice
  • beauty and product reviews
  • style for any size
  • mental health and disability awareness
  • sex and relationships
  • tips for self-love and body acceptance

Also, check out my self-love and body confidence book, Eat the Damn Muffin.

Have a wonderful day!

Check it out!
%d bloggers like this: