So, I was scrolling through Pinterest the other day, and I read a post with blogging tips. This person wrote tips for what you shouldn’t share on your blog. I instantly rolled my eyes, but I was also curious. Damn them and their appealing graphics. As I read down through, I was more and more inspired to write this type of “counter post” if you will.
This person said, “first and foremost: people don’t want to read about YOU.” They continued saying that personal blogs and bloggers that share their stories and endeavors never become truly successful. Well, I’ll be damned again. I better close up shop, because a good fraction of my blog is about sharing my experiences.
It made me wonder did I miss something? Isn’t the point of blogging to write what you love? There are billions of blogs, so the more diversity the better. What’s more diverse and authentic than sharing our experiences and learning from each other?!
With all of that being said, I decided to make this blogging about blogging post dedicated to writing about what you want regardless of fear or nerves. If we let our insecurities hold us back, we will never know how incredible we could be.
Take the Leap
When I first started this blog, I was very worried about sharing posts that were sex related. This is a parenting and lifestyle blog, and moms are a very judged group of individuals. So, I thought I had to stay in this tiny “mom appropriate box.” I felt stuck, and I wanted to get outside of that ridiculous box.
I took the leap, and my first sex positive post did well. People applauded my openness, and I felt growth happening right in front of me. Posting about something I was afraid would have backlash actually pushed me to be more myself. After that post, I grew as a blogger, so don’t let fear hold you back.
You can’t please everyone, and you can’t post for everyone. If you think your post and words will be controversial, then start that conversation. We need more discourse where we stand behind what we feel.
I also shared my journey with my eating disorders, suicidal thoughts, and other mental health struggles. Yes, I lost a few followers and made a handful of people uncomfortable, but I also had many messages from people saying that my honesty inspired and helped them. That made it all worth it and showed me that believing in your words CAN take you far.
There will always be tips and guides for bloggers, but the best tip is write for yourself first and then let the rest come to you. If you don’t like what you post, you’ll lose interest or be unhappy. Blogging can be a career, so why not love your career. Don’t turn it into another trapped 9-5 type of scenario.
Dip Your Toes
If you’re still hesitant writing about a specific topic, dip your toes in first.
- You can write pre-posts that discuss your goals for your blog. Include a list of topics that you want, and get a feel from your readers.
- Make a social media poll. I love making and participating in polls when bloggers ask for feedback. It’s fun reaching out and getting involved in the blogging community.
- Make a smaller post on social media before a full length blog post. I’ve posted many body and sex positive posts to Instagram to gauge my readers, and it usually proves that you should just go for it.
If you have nerves and can’t seem to justify posting about a certain topic, try the tips above. It’s okay to not want to go full force into something, so you can find small ways to adjust your comfort level until you’ve decided. It’s okay to have uncertainties with your blog and posts from time to time. That doesn’t make you any less of a blogger; it makes you human.
You’re the Boss
Remember that you have control. This is your blog, and you have the power. I was so apprehensive for too long, because I thought being a mom blogger and having that niche dictated what I was and wasn’t allowed to post. Then, I discovered that forcing yourself to fit into a niche might not be the best option if you have a lot of topics you want to cover.
Say hello to the term “lifestyle blogger.” Thankfully, I realized I couldn’t write about parenting 24/7, because there’s more to me than being a mom. Don’t get me wrong, I can talk about my babies until I am blue in the face, but I have more to offer and more I want to write about.
It’s okay to expand your niche and topics. I know the blogger rule of thumb is find a niche a stick to it, but who says you can’t have a multifaceted niche and be still successful?
Success is measured differently for everyone, so make your blog your own. Write personal posts. You are in charge, so follow yourself rather than others.
Another thing that helps me from time to time is writing down blog tips. I don’t just google random tips and write them down. I make my own, and having my own tips and advice gives me confidence in what I write. These are the tips I’d give myself when I was first starting, and these have become a way I can reason with myself when I have a blog crisis or post question. I know it may sound a bit odd, but being your own voice of reason can have a lot of benefits.
Blog Tips for Myself
- Promote yourself. I think it’s very important to share your work and be confident in what you write. I didn’t always promote myself, but when I did, I found a community I adore, and my blog began to grow.
- Be authentic. Never copy or try to imitate others. It’s okay to be inspired by others but never imitate them. Being yourself will set your blog apart from others.
- Write what you love. Writing about what interests you will not only benefit you but also your readers. We tend to thrive when we are doing what we love, and that’s noticeable and can attract readers and growth.
- Be consistent. I try to be consistent with not only what I say but also the overall tone of my blog. Consistency is reliable and creates a trust between blogger and readers.
- Engaging is everything. I try to respond as quickly as I can with my readers. Also, I try to give good answers and responses rather than being brief. I want my readers to know engaging in comments and hearing their comments and feedback is important too.
- Don’t sweat the stats. I try not to check my stats more than twice a week, otherwise I will lose my damn mind chasing those numbers. Blogging takes time, and freaking out about numbers can put added stress on you that isn’t necessary. Believe in what you do, and growth will happen.
Sometimes we need to look to ourselves for support and advice. Trusting our own experiences and pulling from those can help us learn and grow.
I know it sounds a bit wonky to write these tips down like I’m talking to someone else, but that’s okay. It works for me. It’s okay to make your own rules and create a system that is personalized for your rhyme and reason. Again, be yourself and do what makes you happy. I stand by that piece of advice for my blog, and I preach it often as well.
Have a lovely weekend!