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While I’m not fully healed, I’m back! After seeing the doctors again and finding out my rotator cuff in my shoulder is torn, I decided to be an good patient for once and actually rest. Those few days off were a mix of awful and much needed. I still hurt, and I have a lot of healing to do. But I’m back!

It’s the holiday season, so I feel like I don’t have time for breaks. Healing, health, and self-care needed to come first though, but I’m excited to be back. There’s a lot that has happened and even more to come.

Life Updates

As I mentioned in a previous post, we added a new addition to our family. Our new rescue Tinka is doing marvelous, and she fits in so wonderfully with our other pets. Even though so much has happened by chance lately, things fell into place just when we needed them to.

Hurting my shoulder was a setback, but it also made me more determined. I’m not just determined with blogging or working on my new book for next year. The determination I have is to work on more self-care while simultaneously going after my goals, because I’ve never been the best at balancing them.

I’m good at setting goals and going after what I want, but I usually wait until I’m sick or burnt out to work on taking care of myself. My newest goal is to do both, because you shouldn’t wait until you desperately need self-care to do it. It should be a regular thing.

Shopping Season

I’m also excited to say that for the first time, we have the kids’ Christmas shopping done before Thanksgiving. Now, we have to focus on the rest of the family. Thankfully, I have some planned gift ideas to ease any shopping stress that pops up.

I adore shopping for other people, but I don’t like crowds. Black Friday is not for this lady. Bargains and deals make my cheap soul sing, but you won’t catch me out after Thanksgiving.

Rather than shopping on Black Friday, we will be making a second dinner. Two feasts may seem a bit excessive, but there’s a method to our scrumptious madness this year.

New Traditions

My husband grew up in foster care, and he didn’t really reconnect with his biological family until we were together. On holidays, my family tends to takeover with meals and planning, so this year we are spreading the love our way.

Since his grandmother doesn’t celebrate any holiday because of religious reasons, we will be making food and taking it the following day. We also want to make our own holiday meals for just our family of four, because while we enjoy seeing my parents and family on holidays, we aren’t much for the chaos.

I want to start our own traditions rather than just stick to the usual, get up early, go to my parent’s house, eat, and try to visit everyone while we are exhausted from holiday run around. Don’t get me wrong, we love seeing my side of the family, but I also want to work on growing our own little family’s traditions.

Tis the Season for Change

The holiday season is a madhouse with my family, so my goal is to make our home a calm place to unwind. I will decorate and spread holiday cheer, but I don’t want our home to be a beacon for crowed holiday parties. We have a microscopic friend circle, and minimal family, so it shouldn’t be too much of a challenge to keep the holidays festive but toned down this year.

In the past, we’ve also tried to get gifts for everyone and make a million visits. We would try to include both sides of the family and his foster family. This year, we are toning it down. Year after year, we chase friends and family and hope for this sense of togetherness.

This past year was a learning experience that we can’t chase everyone and hope they return the love and want to see us and the kids. I won’t keeping trying to force relationships for my kids. It’s going to be hard answering the whys when my kids ask for people. Honestly, I can’t keep hoping that people will love my kids they way they love them.

All the Love We Need

The lessons were hard this year when it came to friends and family. However, that is apart of life, and we realized that we have all of the love we need. I’m finally content with knowing that we can’t be everyone’s cup of tea, and you can’t make people love you. This year we are focusing on the positive and the love we have for each other.

What lessons have you learned this year when it comes to celebrations, friends, and family? Are you starting any new traditions? I’d love to hear some of your holiday plans.

-With Love,

Jenni

10 Comments »

  1. Year after year, we chase friends and family and hope for this sense of togetherness.
    Oh my this right here and all that followed is what we are going through too. “This past year was a learning experience that we can’t chase everyone and hope they return the love and want to see us and the kids. I won’t keeping trying to force relationships for my kids. It’s going to be hard answering the whys when my kids ask for people. Honestly, I can’t keep hoping that people will love my kids they way they love them.”

    What is going on anyhow? My husband’s family started cutting him out years ago and my kids just finally stopped asking to see them. Sadly they live less than a mile from us. We’ve finally just let it go and have no plans to see them over the holidays. We are absolutely done chasing. I hope your shoulder feels better soon.

  2. My family is in another state, my husbands family dont celebrate because of their religious beliefs. So it’s always just my family of 6 (unless someone from my family comes to visit ). I love that we’ve made our own traditions.

  3. Ahhh sweets I am SO sorry! I didn’t;t realize it was your rotator cuff. Are you going to need surgery? I have been dealing with a similar issue and it stinks, though it sounds like you are being a much better patient then I am! Lol. I hope you are feeling better! I also love that you shop early! I am the same way! I love the deals, but I would much rather shop from my computer then potentially lose my sanity by going to the store. Though I have braved it for people watching, and spontaneous buying. But to go with a list. No way! I hope you have an amazing Thanksgiving and holiday season! Sending so much love to you and your fam! <3

    • Thanks, darlin! They don’t think I’ll need surgery, but it depends on how I heal and if I actually take it easy like I’m supposed to. I hate sitting still, but I tripped and fell into our fire pit last night- there was no fire, thankfully. So, it’s like I’m hurt all over again. Just getting through the best I can. I’m sorry you’re dealing with something similar. Sending all my love and support. Hope your holiday is fabulous!!! 😊😘💕

  4. I started a new tradition last year, I usually before never do any Christmas decorations on the second floor of the house. I decided to change that last year, and so I included also a small 4 ft. tall Christmas tree on the second floor, I am not gonna lie, is a lot of work for me the decorations now because I have been adding up for years and so I have a lot of stuff, but is so nice to put little presents for the kids on both Christmas trees, and see their happy faces. Also this year is exciting for us because 1. my oldest is turning 15 years old on January, and so that’s the first big number and so we are going to be celebrating after new year’s, and 2. we have a new puppy, her name is Bella and so she’ll be joining us this Christmas.

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